What is stress?

Reading the official psychologists’ recourses we see the following meaning of the word “stress”:

“Stress is your body’s way of responding to any kind of demand. It can be caused by both good and bad experiences. When people feel stressed by something going on around them, their bodies react by releasing chemicals into the blood. These chemicals give people more energy and strength, which can be a good thing if their stress is caused by physical danger. But this can also be a bad thing, if their stress is in response to something emotional and there is no outlet for this extra energy and strength. This class will discuss different causes of stress, how stress affects you, the difference between ‘good’ or ‘positive’ stress and ‘bad’ or ‘negative’ stress, and some common facts about how stress affects people today.”

So you see that stress can be as negative so positive one. Positive stresses can hardly be called the happy minutes of our life but they tope up our body, they add some new emotions in our life.

So let’s see what stresses are negative and what are positive ones.

Negative stresses:

Negative caused some bad emotions in your mind and discomfort feeling in your body. It can be the bad sleeping at night, losing the appetite. Such bad stresses are usually provoked by negative situations in our life. Maybe you’ve just lost your job or your family is breaking out. This kind of stress is really dangerous. If you don’t take it away so the problems may rise into the psychological disease.

If you have negative stress, go to the doctor and work on yourself all the time. Your mental health is the most important thing in your life, remember it!

Positive stresses:

Positive stress is that kind of your mind condition when you have some problems, some non-convenient situations but they mobilize you. I think you had such stresses. Let’s see:

• You boss tells you to do the huge amount of work but you have no time for it;
• Your plain is taking on in 20 minutes when you are far from the airport
• You’ll have an exam tomorrow but still don’t know anything and so on.

As a rule positive stresses are short-term. They take us some portion of adrenalin. Some people who like such stresses are looking for them in extreme sports for example.

I wish you to distinguish positive and negative stresses and have only first ones in your life!

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* The first thing is your mood. You should believe that this search will be successful. Just imagine the person you want to meet and have only positive emotions.

* The second thing is creating your profile. Psychologists recommend giving the brief but informative answers. They have to reflect your personality fully. Don’t hesitate to upload your photo. Even if you think your appearance is not so great do it anyway. Remember your perfect match will love you such as you are.

* If you decide to address someone don’t write some standard massages as “How are you?” Try to write something outstanding and even funny sometimes. But don’t ask too private questions.

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To find the one site you’ll like read the dating sites reviews first. It will help you undoubtedly.

Here you can find the advantages and disadvantages of the most popular services, see the dating sites ratings, get to know about prices.

The Internet has become the part of modern society. It has bad and good features. But the opinion that only losers meet through the Internet is a fault. Many interesting, clever, honest people use dating service because they have no time for other meeting. So don’t be afraid of using dating portals. Register and enjoy the great online dating community!

Researchers have concluded that a decrease in total health care costs can be expected following mental health intervention, even when the cost of the intervention is included.

Research at Columbia Medical Plan shows that untreated mentally ill patients increased their medical utilization by 61%.

National Cash Register (NCR) reports a savings of $300,000 in the first year following the establishment of a mental health plan which encouraged early intervention, access to a full range of care and treatment in the least restrictive setting.

Chevron saw a 21% decrease in psychiatric hospital admission costs when the company encouraged utilization outpatient services and reimbursed for the services at the rate of 85%.

Modest mental health interventions have been shown to reduce general hospital stays by 1.5 days below a control group’s average of 8.7 days

It’s easy to spot with increases in:

• Absenteeism
• Tardiness
• Abuse of sick time
• Theft
• Industrial Accidents
• Workers’ Compensation Claims
• Poor Judgment
• Errors
• Bad Decisions
• Erratic Behavior
• Poor Work Quality
• Stress Related Medical Problems

Table of Contents

1. What happens to people after a disaster or other traumatic event ?
2. How do people respond differently over time ?
3. How should I help myself and my family ?
4. How do I take care of children’s special needs ?
5. When should I seek professional help ?
6. Resource links ?

What happens… ?

Shock and denial are typical responses to disaster and other kinds of trauma, especially shortly after the event. Both shock and denial are normal protective reactions.
Shock is a sudden and often intense disturbance of your emotional state that may leave you feeling stunned or dazed. Denial involves your not acknowledging that something very stressful has happened, or not experiencing fully the intensity of the event. You may temporarily numb or disconnect from life.
As the initial shock subsides, reactions vary from person to person. The following, however, are normal responses to a traumatic event:

• Feelings become intense and sometimes are unpredictable. You may become more irritable than usual, and your moods may change back and forth dramatically. You might be especially anxious or nervous, or even become depressed.
• Thoughts and behavior patterns are affected by the trauma. You might have repeated and vivid memories of the event. These flashbacks may occur for no apparent reason and may lead to physical reactions such as rapid heart beat or sweating.
  You may find it difficult to concentrate or make decisions, or become more easily confused. Sleep and eating patterns also may be disrupted.
• Recurring emotional reactions are common. Anniversaries of the event, such as one month or one year, as well as reminders such as aftershocks from earthquakes or the sounds of sirens, can trigger upsetting memories of the traumatic experience. These “triggers” may be accompanied by fears that the stressful event will be repeated.
• Interpersonal relationships often become strained. Greater conflict such as more frequent arguments with family members and coworkers, is common. On the other hand, you might become withdrawn and isolated and avoid yo0ur usual activities.
• Physical symptoms may accompany the extreme stress. For example, headaches, nausea and chest pain may result and may require medical attention. Pre-existing medical conditions may worsen due to the stress.

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How do people respond over time ?

It is important for you to realize that there is not one “standard” pattern of reaction to the extreme stress of traumatic experiences. Some people respond immediately, while others have delayed reactions – sometimes months or even years later. Some have adverse effects for long periods of time, while others recover rather quickly.
And reactions can change over time. Some who have suffered from trauma are energized initially by the event to help them with the challenge of coping, only to later become discouraged or depressed.

A number of factors tend to affect the length of time required for recovery, including:

• the degree of intensity and loss. Events that last longer and pose a greater threat, and where loss of life or substantial loss of property is involved, often take longer to resolve.
• a person’s general ability to cope with emotionally challenging situations. Individuals who have handled other difficult, stressful circumstances may well find it easier to cope with the trauma.
• other stressful events preceding the traumatic experience. Individuals faced with other emotionally challenging situations, such as serious health problems or family-related difficulties, may have more intense reactions to the new stressful event and need more time to recover.

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How should I… ?

There are a number of steps you can take to help restore emotional well being and a senses of control following a disaster or other traumatic experience, including the following:

• Give yourself time to heal. Anticipate that this will be a difficult time in your life. allow yourself to mourn the losses you have experienced. Try to be patient with changed in your emotional state.
• Ask for support from people who care about you and who will listen and empathize with your situation. But keep in mind that your typical support system may be weakened if those who are close to you also have experienced or witnessed the trauma.
  Communicate your experience in whatever ways feel comfortable to you – such as by talking with family or close friends, or keeping a journal.
• Find out about local support groups that often are available such as for those who have suffered from natural disasters, or for women who are victims of rape. these can be especially helpful for people with limited personal support systems.
  Try to find groups led by appropriately trained and experienced professionals. Group discussion can help people realize that other individuals in the same circumstances often have similar reactions and emotions.
• Engage in healthy behaviors to enhance your ability to cope with excessive stress. Eat well-balanced meals and get plenty of rest. If you experience ongoing difficulties with sleep, you may be able to find some relief through relaxation techniques. Avoid alcohol or drugs.
• Establish or reestablish routines such as eating meals at regular times and following an exercise program. Take some time off the demands of daily life by pursuing hobbies or other enjoyable activities.
• Avoid major life decisions such as switching careers or jobs if possible because these activities tend to be highly stressful.
• Become knowledgeable about what to expect as a result of trauma. Some of the “Additional Resources” listed may help you with this learning process.

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How do I take care of children’s special needs ?

The intense anxiety and fear that often follow a disaster or other traumatic event can be especially troubling for children. Some may regress and demonstrate younger behaviors such as thumb sucking or bed wetting. Children may be more prone to nightmares and fear of sleeping alone. Performance in school may suffer. Other changes in behavior patterns may include throwing tantrums more frequently, or withdrawing and becoming more solitary.
There are several things parents and others who care for children can do to help alleviate the emotional consequences of trauma, including the following:

• Spend more time with children and let then be more dependent on you during the months following the trauma – for example, allow your child to cling to you more often than usual. Physical affection is very comforting to children who have experienced trauma.
• Provide play experiences to help relieve tension. Younger children in particular may find it easier to share their ideas and feelings about the event through non-verbal activities such as drawing.
• Encourage older children to speak with you, and with one another about their thoughts and feelings. This helps reduce their confusion and anxiety related to the trauma. Respond to questions in terms they can comprehend. Reassure them repeatedly that you care about them and that you understand their fears and concerns.
• Keep regular schedules for activities such as eating, playing and going to bed to help restore a sense of security and normalcy.

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When should I seek professional help ?

Some people are able to cope effectively with the emotional and physical demands brought about by a natural disaster or other traumatic experience by using their own support systems. It is not unusual, however, to find that serious problems persist and continue to interfere with daily living. For example, some may feel overwhelming nervousness or lingering sadness that adversely affects job performance and interpersonal relationships.

Individuals with prolonged reactions that disrupt their daily functioning should consult with a trained and experienced mental health professional. Appropriately trained mental health providers help educate people about normal responses to extreme stress. These professionals work with individuals affected by trauma to help them find constructive ways of dealing with the emotional impact.

With children, continual and aggressive emotional outbursts, serious problems at school, preoccupation with the traumatic event, continued and extreme withdrawal, and other signs of intense anxiety or emotional difficulties all point to the need for professional assistance. A qualified mental health professional can help such children and their parents understand and deal with thoughts, feelings and behaviors that result from trauma.
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Resources

Local chapters of the American Red Cross may be able to direct you to additional resources. Check your local telephone directory for the chapter nearest you.

• National Association of Victims Assistance
  1757 Park Road, N.W. Washington D.C. 20010
  Toll-free: 1.800.TRY-NOVA; in D.C. metropolitan area: 202.232.6682
• “After Disaster: Steps You Can Take to Cope With a Stressful Situation”,
  L.A. County Dept of Mental Health
  http://gladstone.uoregon.edu/~dvb/dissteps.htm
• “Coping With Emotions After a Disaster”,
  University of Illinois Cooperative Extension Service
  http://www.ag.uiuc.edu/~disaster/emotion.htm
• “Helping Children Cope”
  http://www.apa.org/kids.html